Domestic Abuse Therapy in Toronto

Domestic abuse can affect your sense of safety, self-worth, and ability to trust yourself and others. It can occur in many forms – emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, financial, or coercive control – and it does not always involve visible harm.

 

At The Cohen Clinic, we offer therapy for individuals impacted by domestic abuse in Toronto. Our goal is to provide a confidential, supportive, and non-judgmental space where you can make sense of your experiences, rebuild a sense of safety, and move forward at your own pace.

What Is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse refers to patterns of behaviour used to gain power and control within an intimate or family relationship. It can occur between current or former partners, spouses, family members, friends or people who share a household.

 

Abuse does not always look the same, and many individuals question whether their experiences “count.” If you feel afraid, controlled, diminished, or unsafe in a relationship – emotionally or physically – your experience matters.

Common Forms of Domestic Abuse

Emotional and Psychological Abuse

This form of abuse targets a person’s sense of self and emotional safety.

It may include:

  • Constant criticism, humiliation, or name-calling

  • Gaslighting or denying your reality

  • Blame-shifting or making you feel responsible for their behaviour

  • Threats, intimidation, or emotional withdrawal as punishment

Over time, emotional abuse can lead to confusion, self-doubt, anxiety, depression and loss of confidence.

Coercive Control

 

Coercive control involves ongoing patterns of domination that restrict autonomy and independence.

This may look like:

  • Monitoring your movements, messages, or finances

  • Isolating you from friends, family, or support systems

  • Controlling what you wear, who you see, or how you behave

  • Creating fear around consequences for disobedience

Coercive control can exist even without physical violence and often escalates gradually.

Physical Abuse

 

Physical abuse includes any use of force intended to cause harm or fear.

This may involve:

  • Hitting, pushing, restraining, or choking

  • Blocking exits or trapping you in a space

  • Threatening physical harm to you, children, or pets

Even one incident of physical violence is serious and deserves support.

Sexual Abuse

 

Sexual abuse can occur within relationships and marriages and is often misunderstood or minimized.

This may include:

  • Pressure or coercion into sexual activity

  • Ignoring consent or boundaries

  • Using sex as a means of control, punishment, or obligation

Sexual abuse can deeply affect trust, bodily autonomy, and emotional well-being.

Financial Abuse

 

Financial abuse limits access to resources and independence.

Examples include:

  • Controlling access to money or accounts

  • Preventing you from working or sabotaging employment

  • Creating debt in your name or withholding financial information

This form of abuse can make leaving or seeking help feel impossible.

Where Does Domestic Abuse Come From?

Domestic abuse does not have a single cause. It often develops through a combination of relational dynamics, personal history, and broader social factors.

 

Power and Control Dynamics

Abuse is rooted in unequal power. One person uses fear, manipulation, or dominance to maintain control rather than engaging in mutual respect and accountability.

 

Trauma and Learned Patterns

Some individuals who experience abuse have histories of trauma or grew up in environments where control, violence, or emotional neglect were normalized. This does not mean abuse is caused by the survivor – responsibility always lies with the person who chooses to harm.

 

Cultural, Social, and Systemic Factors

Cultural expectations, stigma, fear of not being believed, immigration concerns, financial dependence, or concern for children can all make it harder to recognize abuse or leave unsafe situations.

How Domestic Abuse Can Affect Your Life

Living with abuse can impact nearly every area of life, even long after the relationship ends.

 

Emotional and Psychological Effects

You may experience anxiety, depression, hypervigilance, shame, guilt, or numbness. Many people struggle with self-blame or difficulty trusting their own perceptions.

 

Impact on Relationships

Abuse can affect future relationships, leading to fear of closeness, difficulty setting boundaries, or feeling undeserving of care and respect.

 

Effects on Identity and Self-Worth

Over time, abuse can erode confidence and sense of self. You may feel disconnected from who you were before or unsure of who you are now.

How Therapy Can Help After Domestic Abuse

Healing from domestic abuse is not about “getting over it.” It is about restoring safety, agency, and self-trust.

 

A Safe, Confidential Space

Therapy offers a place where your experiences are taken seriously and explored without judgment. A therapist can help you:

  • Make sense of what happened

  • Validate your emotional responses

  • Reduce confusion, self-blame, and shame

Rebuilding Safety and Boundaries

Therapy can support you in:

  • Recognizing healthy vs. harmful relationship patterns

  • Developing boundaries that protect your emotional and physical safety

  • Reconnecting with your needs, preferences, and values

Processing Trauma at Your Pace

For many survivors, abuse leaves lasting trauma responses. Therapy can gently address:

  • Intrusive memories or emotional triggers

  • Nervous system dysregulation

  • Fear, dissociation, or emotional shutdown

The focus is on stability and safety – not pressure.

Restoring Self-Trust and Self-Compassion

Abuse often damages trust in oneself. Therapy can help you:

  • Reclaim confidence in your perceptions and decisions

  • Challenge internalized blame or criticism

  • Develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself

Domestic Abuse Therapy at The Cohen Clinic in Toronto

At The Cohen Clinic, we work with individuals affected by domestic abuse using trauma-informed, client-centred care. Our therapists:

  • Provide a confidential, non-judgmental environment

  • Understand the complexities of power, control, and trauma

  • Respect your pace, choices, and autonomy

  • Draw on evidence-based approaches such as trauma-informed therapy, CBT, emotion-focused therapy, and compassion-based work

Our aim is to support you in:

  • Feeling safer in your body and mind

  • Rebuilding a sense of agency and self-worth

  • Moving forward in a way that feels right for you

You do not need to have all the answers to begin.

The Domestic Abuse Therapy Team

Dr. Fathima Mucheth Abdul Basheer

Ph.D. (Psychologist, Supervised Practice)

Kristin Michie

MPsy Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying)

Carmel Laniado

M.S.W, R.S.W.
Registered Social Worker

Jayati

Jay Singh

M.A., R.P.
Registered Psychotherapist

Book Therapy for Domestic Abuse in Toronto

If you are living with the effects of domestic abuse – past or present – reaching out for support is a meaningful step.

At The Cohen Clinic, we offer therapy for individuals affected by domestic abuse in Toronto, tailored to your experiences, needs, and goals.

 

Book an Appointment today to begin your therapy journey.